You Are The Sum

You equal the sum of the people who you surround yourself with.  Choose wisely!  We all have our "bad days"...I'm not saying to "write off" someone important in your life because they are having a bad day, or even a bad week or month...not at all.  But you know, just as well as I do that there are some people who just drain your energy on a daily basis.  They are perpetually miserable, and/or perpetually negative.  They are the ones that say, "I wish..." a lot.  You can recognize these folks because they may say things like, "Ugh, another day at the office...", yet they will not make the effort to take action steps that have the potential to create something different for their life.  They are the people who say they want different things in their life, but take zero action to try to create or find other ways to get what they want (which sometimes requires thinking "outside the box".  They just want to complain!  These people are called "dream stealer's."  Maybe you could even be of those people?  I was.  Guess what?!  People can change!  🙂

They say misery loves company, and that is so true.  We tend to find the people that will feed our feelings...you can choose people who will allow you to feel sadness, or you can find people who will support you and lift you up!  If you are having a hard time in life, look at those who are around you...are they the example of what you would like to be more of...or do they continue to pat you on the back and say "awww, poor you, that is so terrible that things are so hard..."  I don't mean this to be harsh...but as a wake up call.  Several years ago, I was that person who for years fed my own self-worth issues by allowing people of a negative vibration to surround me.  It is a negative spiral downwards once this starts happening...but you can start climbing the stairs at any point, that is the good news!  Surround yourself with people who are perpetually positive, and who will lift you up and tell you the truth...rather than accept your excuses and negativity.  Life is too short to say "poor me!"

Do something different if you don't like the way things are going in your life.  You always have the choice to choose differently...you always have the choice to make new friends, weed out the pessimists, and do things in your life that bring you joy rather than misery.

This was my Facebook post on my personal page today:  "Do you know what I've noticed lately? I "like" more posts than I don't like! That is a positive sign that I am around positive people who are doing positive things! Be around people who make you feel good! The end. :)"

That is a sign that you are around a positive influence.  I have noticed that my attitude and my actions are changing in more positive directions, based off of the network and people who are surrounding me in my life.  I AM the sum of the people who I interact with.  It is a choice to either feed into the negative, or to reject it and create a sphere of influence that is joyful, happy, and successful.  🙂

For immediate results, start following some of the positive icons that are out there!  People such as: Dani Johnson, Wayne Dyer, Mike Dooley, Oprah Winfrey, Kim Kiyosaki, Robert Kiyosaki...just to name a few!  Who are among the influential people who you follow?  Please share!

Who/What will you choose?  Choose wisely!  😉

5 thoughts on “You Are The Sum

  1. I do have negitive people in my life and the close ones hubby and son, I tell them to change that way of thinking and I dont want to hear all the negitive stuff….”stopped talking like that , you are bringing the negitive energy right to you”. I try and keep it from entering my heart and soul but sometimes its hard.

    • Hi Donna,

      I agree, it is very difficult when those people live in the same house as you. I have encountered the same experience before…and I’ve even *been* that person before. Do you know what the best thing you can do for your family is? Show them. Lead by example, but don’t “explain” what they should be doing that they aren’t…that will only tick them off and make them feel like they aren’t good enough or capable of doing better. That envokes a feeling of failure to a negative or depressed person. It will make them feel like they aren’t doing good enough, and they will make even less effort to do better. Trust me…men run the other way when we start “giving advice”… it sends them the other direction (in my experience). So, what you can do is be cheerful despite them! Do fun things, plan fun things for the family (despite their negativity), and show them how much fun *you* are having. I warn you, this will be exhausting to do for a while, because you will be ‘fighting’ their negative energy….but, at some point, they will loosen up and start following your example. Find joy in life and enjoy it no matter what! It is worth the efforts! Shine brightly, and don’t let anyone else bring you down! You raise those around you UP, but showing them HOW to do that for themselves. Keep leading by example…you are the one shining the flashlight for those behind you…you are showing them the path that gets them out of the cave. Be patient with them…they don’t know the lay of the land like you do…so just show them the way with kindness, love, and light. 🙂

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