Wine, Nachos, and a little R.E.S.P.E.C.T

StarsWhat makes you respect someone?  Is it their profession, or how much they make?  Maybe their circle of friends, or how awesome their new car or house is?  Maybe because they are a movie star?

I'd like to share a story with you, and hopefully share a little insight.  Last night my family went for a little outing in what is called 'Old Town'.  It a cute little part of our town that has boutiques, shops, restaurants, and some wine tasting rooms along the way.  It is built to look like an old time western town...very quaint, and I love it!  My hubby and I had a glass of wine at a tasting room there, while our son sipped on his glass of milk (then it was off to the restaurant next door for some happy hour nachos).  ;o)  After stepping outside of the tasting room my son did a big jump off of a big step.  There were three men standing directly in front of us, and one turned around to address my son.

It wasn't his fancy suit or shiny shoes that impressed me most.  Now, don't get me wrong- I did notice how clean cut he was (perfect hair and all) and how shiny his shoes were.  (A girl notices these things.)  ;o)  I also noticed that the guys with him were dressed up but wearing tennis shoes...odd, but whatever.  I knew I recognized his face, but didn't place him as 'important.'  His appearance spoke 'important' - but that wasn't what impressed me.  You know what impressed me.......?

It was when he smiled and complimented my son.  It always makes a Mother's heart smile when someone makes a nice gesture towards their child.  In this moment, that is when this fancy suited man earned my respect.  He turned and smiled at my son and said, "Wow, you are a great jumper!"  I prompted my 3 year old to give him a 'thank you', as sometimes he is shy and isn't sure what to say to strangers.  So he gave a polite 'thank you' and we were on our way.

A little down the sidewalk my husband turns to me and says, "You know who that is, right?"  I said 'no' and I turned to get another glance.  "It's Gary Sinise", he replies.  "Luteniant Dan from Forrest Gump", he continues, "he was also in Apollo 13, and CSI."  The realization struck me all in a moment, and yes, that is when it happened.  The starstruck excitment kicked in!  "A famous actor just told MY kid what a good jumper he is!"  LOL  What was a casual night out for a glass of wine and nachos turned into a realization for me- a lesson in respect.  You never know who someone is, and why does that matter?  We all deserve the same love and respect, no matter what our profession or pocketbook looks like.  (The guys with him were his body guards by the way- that's why they had running shoes on.)  ;o)

I didn't know who he was at first glance.  Sure, he looked really familiar!  (But why would I expect to see Gary Sinise on a side street of little 'Old Town' on a Tuesday night at 6pm?  What are the odds?!)  My husband of course recognized him, but out of respect to Mr. Sinise, he kept his mouth shut as to not cause a scene.  That is the kind thing to do when you bump into someone famous.

It wasn't his fancy suit and shoes that earned my respect.  Nor was it his fame, money, or fancy possessions.  (Or even the fact that he's a movie star!)  It was the kind and simple gesture he made to make my son feel good and proud of his <jumping> skills.  Respect is earned by how you treat people.  Remember that today when you are interacting with co-workers, friends, family, and especially strangers!!!  You never know who you might be talking to!  But why does that matter anyway, right?  Nah, who am I kidding, it's pretty cool to have bumped into someone with a little stardom.  ;o)

4 thoughts on “Wine, Nachos, and a little R.E.S.P.E.C.T

  1. So true Beth. Respect is earned by how we treat one another. Love what you took from this experience. Thanks for sharing it with us.

    • I wrote it all down last night in my journal, as the whole blog entry just came to me. It was like a download from Spirit on what to take away from the experience. =)

  2. I only read the first paragraph that was posted on FB when I thought of a reply. But I think it still applies after reading your whole article.
    Just last night I was talking to a co-worker about another branch of our business and how it was run vs. ours. He said to me that the main difference he noticed between the 2 managers was that people who worked for our manager really did like her, but that the people who worked for the other manager really respected him. I immediately knew what he was talking about. And from that I understood why I was having so much trouble working here. Part of respect, I think, involves leadership. It’s easy to follow someone you respect.

    • Thanks for sharing S! I think it does apply here. You are right, there is a difference between “like” and “respect” isn’t there? Hmm, something more to think about. Thank you for furthering my thoughts on this. =)

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